Here's the thing: notonthehighstreet.com changed my life

Nila Holden biscuitsEvery Friday I post a “here’s the thing” blog. “Here’s the thing” is something my mum (and many other wise people) like to say when they’re about to make a good point. Hopefully these posts are also good points.

I don’t know about you, but autumn often makes me nostalgic – something about the mid-afternoon sun that makes things orange and warm and hopeful.

And I’ve been thinking about everything that brought me to this point: in my fifth month of self-employment and mentoring, about to move into my first non-rented home, and in a fun, fulfilling relationship with an awesome person.

One of the things that came to mind in my nostalgic mood was my interview with notonthehighstreet.com. It was in a little coffee shop across the road from their offices – they only had one very busy meeting room, so lots of meetings took place in the Corner Café.

We were meeting there, so I’d gone in and ordered a cup of tea. I was sat holding it, feeling the warmth of the glass mug and enjoying seeing the milky tea in a different way to usual. Out in Barnes, away from my then-job in busy Covent Garden, I felt really peaceful, but excited. I liked this business. I liked their brand and what they were doing. I was willing to man the phones, make the tea and wait for the right role to pop up.

Just before my interviewers walked in, I felt hopeful. It felt like my life was going to change.

And I didn’t have to wait long for the right role. In that interview, we were suddenly talking about a different job, something that sounded amazingly full of things I loved to do – proof, write, quality check, analyse. I was caught off-guard, but I went with it. I met Sophie Cornish and my first manager, Gail. Inspiring women then, and even more so now.

As I left, I felt even more excited! Not only was I going to work for this amazing business, I was going to be a doing a job that really felt like me, with passionate, intelligent women (and men, but there were like three of them in the business at that point). I had found a kind of home.

Here’s the thing: working for notonthehighstreet.com changed my life.

work worth doingIt stimulated a passion in me that had never before been clear. I’ve always been passionate (and stubborn, and determined), but I didn’t always really know what I was passionate about in my work life. I thought I was passionate about publishing, but honestly that was pretty boring.

And then suddenly here I was, finding a passion for doing a great job, finding and telling the story of fun and cool products, and supporting creative people. The hard work (and there was plenty) only seemed to make me more passionate.

I’ve heard people say it so many times: “notonthehighstreet.com has changed my life”. But they were Partners, sellers, small businesses that notonthehighstreet.com helped to find their audience and grow astronomically. It seemed like a statement exclusive to them. But it changed my life too.

In five years, I became a manager, an expert, a public speaker, a teacher. I worked with Holly and Sophie on both their books. I met Richard Branson (sort of – I was in the same room as him. That counts, right?). I won an award for being meaningful (where else do you get that?). I worked with Lucy, who managed me for years and became a treasured friend. I ran eight events, and spoke at seven of them. I met my boyfriend.

Five years later and it seems so obvious, that I would be here, mentoring small creative businesses. Helping them make more money, create their unique brands, and – ultimately – feel better about their businesses.

I can’t imagine not being here, not doing this. I feel, somehow, like I would always have ended up here, no matter which path I’d taken.

But that day, in that interview, and everything that happened since – all of that helped me get here. I cannot deny that notonthehighstreet.com changed my life.

And for that I’m incredibly grateful.

Here's the thing: a bit of balance

balanceEvery Friday I post a “here’s the thing” blog. “Here’s the thing” is something my mum (and many other wise people) like to say when they’re about to make a good point. Hopefully these posts are also good points.

To be really honest, I don’t have a lot of words this week. I’ve been writing, writing, writing for clients, for Progress not perfection, for Christmas, and I’m a little bit depleted.

In August and September, I was bowled over by work. So much so that my yoga practice and daily walk went out of the window. My back got sore from sitting so much to work. Slowly but surely, I’ve been feeding yoga back into my routine. This week, I’ve done 10 minutes every morning. Just a little bit, but it makes such a difference.

And I’ve been taking my daily walk, too. It even turned into a jog on Tuesday!

All this to say that I’m really pleased to have added a bit more balance into my days. Exercise as well as sitting. Rest as well as work.

Here’s the thing:

Is there anything you’ve been missing out on? Any areas where you could re-address your balance?

Maybe you’ve been doing so much organising that you haven’t had any purely creative time.

Maybe you need more sleep.

Maybe you need more time for yourself, no work, no family, no one else.

Perhaps you’ve been craving a home cooked meal, or to have someone else cook for you.

Even if it’s just a little thing, I urge you to find a little more balance this weekend. Balance is essential.

Here's the thing: Focus on one thing

footEvery Friday I post a “here’s the thing” blog. “Here’s the thing” is something my mum (and many other wise people) like to say when they’re about to make a good point. Hopefully these posts are also good points.

It is not (I repeat: NOT) easy to stay focused when you run your own business, especially a creative one. Especially one that’s growing quickly, or in an environment that’s changing all the time. (To clarify: in this day and age of ecommerce, everything’s changing all the time.)

It’s also not easy to stay focused as Christmas approaches and it feels like there are a billion things to do simply to fulfil orders, not to mention the billion new ideas and changes you start thinking about for next year.

Tricky.

I feel it. The push and pull of all the different things. The desire to get them all done. The insistence on having Facebook open and pinging away every time you get a notification. I’m not even going to talk about emails. But I know you know what I’m talking about.

At the suggestion of an old colleague, I found a solution: Focus On One Thing, aka FOOT. At the suggestion of my mum, I added a 15 minute timer to this little mantra.

I know Ali over at milly and pip has adapted a similar practice. She makes all her incredible products and runs a brilliant business by focusing on ONE THING for 20 minutes at a time.

It’s not always 15 minutes, but it’s always one thing: a blog post, an email, a product description. All my thought power and energy goes into one thing and anything else gets relegated. I keep my scribble pad nearby so I can write it down to deal with later.

Here’s the thing:

It’s not always easy, and I’m still learning to avoid distractions. On the days I’ve been able to focus on one thing, I feel so much better, so much more in control and aligned with what I’m trying to do.

Try it:

  • Write a little post-it reminder for yourself. (Or draw a foot. But that might not be as obvious…)
  • Get a timer or use your phone. Choose a time period that works for you, whether it’s 10, 15 or 20 minutes. (Any more than that is too long for our brains to concentrate completely on one thing.)
  • Put all your energy and concentration into getting that one thing done, or at least further along. If it’s really boring, tell yourself you’re being a Buddhist monk and it’s a meditation exercise in which you let this thing become your raison d’etre until the timer beeps. Then you leave it to one side.

Just one little thing, one step at a time.

Jx

PS If you need some little reminders over Christmas, don’t forget Progress not perfection starts a week on Monday. There’s still time to get involved, and even a few final care packages if you need a weekly box of encouragement in the post. I’d love to support you!

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