We think we can. We think we should be able to. We’re told that doing everything is just standard practice. It’s not even a big deal, it’s just what’s expected.
Successful business, perfect relationship, amazing friendships, a house that’s always clean, tidy and stylish, a perfect body, relaxed and highly effective parenting, picture-perfect holidays. That’s the picture. Be quirky, original, AND entirely acceptable.
And at this time of year, we add the idea that “this is just Christmas. This is what it’s supposed to be like: stressful, over-worked, doing everything because everything has to happen.”
It’s that feeling, when you look at your to-do list, that you cannot drop a single thing. They all need to happen before the end of the day. Because they just do! There’s no option!
When we’re over-worked, overwhelmed and have gone too long without sleep, rest and a calm moment – that’s when we’re even more susceptible to thinking we have to do everything. Ironically.
But here’s the thing: you can’t do everything
You’re not super-woman. You’re not superhuman. You, too, are limited by time, fallibility and the human need for sleep.
That’s not to say you’re not strong, resourceful, successful, and doing your best.
Let’s accept that those two things can happen at the same time. (I know you might need to suspend your disbelief for a second. Play along with me…)
If you’re both human and striving to do your best, what does your to-do list look like?
Perhaps you buy the mince pies for your Christmas drinks, instead of making them. Perhaps you cancel the entire thing.
Perhaps you pay for all your presents to be gift wrapped.
Perhaps you let go of a whole load of things.
Perhaps you ask for all kinds of help.
Now, this last one is where it gets tricky, I know, but if you can’t do it all, and some things really need to get done, asking for help is where it’s at.
You’re allowed to ask for help. All kinds of help.
Need a boost or help prioritising or to get it off your chest? I’m here. Get in touch.
I wish you a week of doing your best, but acknowledging that you can’t do it all. Welcome to the club.
Jenny xx
PS I created a little #inspiredadvent thing over on social media, which features a little word a day to prompt you. Today’s is simplicity. Appropriate, non?
